A New York Times article reporting the results of this research brief begins in the following way:
It used to be called illegitimacy. Now it is the new normal. After steadily rising for five decades, the share of children born to unmarried women has crossed a threshold: more than half of births to American women under 30 occur outside marriage.
True enough, but misleading and problematical nonetheless. To begin with, as the article acknowledges, in 2009, 40% of childbirths occurred outside the context of marriage. Despite the appallingly high percentage of out-of-wedlock births, the “norm” is still marriage.
To be sure, among younger women the proportion of out-of-wedlock births is much higher—87% for 15-19 year-olds and 62% for 20-24 year-olds. At and after age 25, the proportion drops significantly—to 34% for 25-29 year-olds and even lower (roughly 20%) for older women. What’s more, according to the definitive CDC study, the cohort with the highest birthrate is women in their early 30s (97.7 per 1,000, barely more than the 96.3 birthrate for women 25-29). Women in their late 30s are more likely to have children than teenagers (46.5 to 39.1). Viewed in this light, the “normal” mother is an older woman more likely than her younger counterpart to be married.
This isn’t to say that we should be celebrating. The proportion of children born outside marriage has been increasing all too rapidly among all ages and races. While the birthrate among married women is still significantly higher than among their unmarried counterparts, the latter rate has almost doubled in the past 30 years, while the former has declined by more than 10% over the same period.
There are other revealing ways of looking at the data. For example, in 2009, 73% of the African-American births were to unmarried women, compared to 53% of those to Hispanic women and 29% to white women. All those percentages were higher than they had been twenty years earlier. But lest we regard “our” problem as largely one of race, we should consider the data from this CDC report, from which we learn that in 2007 the percentages of births to unmarried women were significantly higher in the more ethnically homogeneous countries of Iceland, Norway, and Sweden than in the more diverse U.S. While the problems of the African-American family are well-documented, the Scandinavian examples suggest that social policy and permissive cultural norms can also weaken traditional family structures.
This is a problem for reasons the Times article mentions.
The shift is affecting children’s lives. Researchers have consistently found that children born outside marriage face elevated risks of falling into poverty, failing in school or suffering emotional and behavioral problems….
Reviewing the academic literature, Susan L. Brown of Bowling Green State University recently found that children born to married couples, on average, “experience better education, social, cognitive and behavioral outcomes.”
Children are clearly better off in an intact two-parent household. And to maintain such a household, there’s no substitute for marriage. While a majority of out-of-wedlock births to white and Hispanic mothers occur in households with cohabiting parents, these relationships are much less stable than marriage. According to a study reported in the Times article, two-thirds of them break up by the time the child reaches ten.
People are reluctant to marry, we’re told, because they don’t trust the institution. But the arrangements they make for themselves don’t exactly improve upon it.
How did we get here? About that, there’s major disagreement. Among the arguments cited in the Times are the following:
- Men are “worth less” (not worthless): the decline in men’s wages has made them less reliable and necessary as breadwinners. Marriage has declined most among those who are most economically marginal.
- Government policy makes marriage a bad bargain for some, as there are benefits available to the unmarried than aren’t there for the married.
- Laws permitting “no-fault” divorce send a cultural signal about the relative lack of importance of marriage.
In a recent blog post, my friend Peter Lawler suggests another set of reasons connected with an imprudent extension of some of the implications of the classical liberal individualism that played a prominent role in the American Founding.
The general thought is that idea of marriage between a man and a woman has to be supplanted with the idea of a marriage between autonomous individuals, who are free to choose how to put together their intimate lives. That redefinition fits with the way marriage has been reconfigured, in general, in a Lockean direction over the last few generations. Divorce has been much easier, adultery less stigmatized, and the connection between marriage and children has become progressively more attenuated. We’re more okay than ever with unmarried women having children, and married people not having them.
If we think of ourselves as “autonomous individuals,” not as men and women made for one another and for family life, then our relationships are likely to be more about self-actualization than about anything else. Because we don’t “focus on the family,” our relationships suffer, and, with them, the children who we bring into this world.
We have taken a relatively long time to get ourselves into this situation, and there is no easy way out. Public policy has a limited role to play, as (it seems to me) much of our problem is “cultural” or philosophical. Perhaps we can begin by not regarding as “normal” something that should trouble us all.



